Helping you see the pattern - and change it
About Geraldine Fay - Integrative Therapist & NLP Practitioner
I work with people who know something needs to change but cannot yet see clearly what it is or how to shift it.
Often they have already tried to understand it. They can describe the pattern. They simply cannot seem to move it, not through insight alone, not through willpower, not through trying harder.
That is where this work begins.
I bring to it not only professional training across several disciplines, but a personal understanding of what it means to lose yourself inside a pattern you cannot yet name. That understanding informs everything I do.
How I work
My work goes deeper than talking about what is happening. Rather than focusing primarily on insight and understanding, I work directly with the patterns themselves, the automatic responses, beliefs and ways of relating that sit below conscious thought and quietly shape how life is experienced.
This is practical, purposeful work. Every session has a direction. We are always moving toward something specific, not circling the same ground indefinitely.
I adapt the approach to the person in front of me, drawing on whichever methods are most relevant to what is actually present. This means the work feels personal rather than formulaic, and change tends to arrive in a way that feels natural rather than forced.
What I specialise in
I work with a range of difficulties, but my work is particularly focused on:
Relationship patterns : especially over functioning, emotional responsibility and losing yourself inside a relationship dynamic
Phobias and performance anxiety : focused, targeted work that produces results quickly
Self-sabotage, procrastination and avoidance : understanding what is driving the pattern beneath the surface
Limiting beliefs and recurring patterns : the deep, often unconscious convictions that shape every decision without awareness
Identity and self-connection : returning to a clearer sense of who you are beneath the roles and patterns you have been living inside
My background and training
I am an integrative therapist and accredited NLP practitioner, Working online with clients across the UK, Ireland, Australia and worldwide, and in person in Crossmaglen, Northern Ireland. Australian evening appointments available 6pm–10pm AEST.
My core training includes:
Neuro-Linguistic Programming | NLP
Jungian-informed Transpersonal Therapy
Somatic and Nervous System-Based Approaches including Polyvagal Theory
Shamanic Counselling
Traditional Chinese Medicine Licentiate
My work is also informed by an ongoing engagement with Jungian psychology, attachment theory, and the relationship between early experience and adult patterns.
I am an accredited member of the ABNLP (American Board of Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and the IPHM (International Practitioners of Holistic Medicine).
Why I do this work
Again and again I have seen how people can be genuinely stuck, not through lack of intelligence or effort, but because the pattern driving their experience sits outside conscious awareness. Understanding it intellectually changes nothing. Working with it directly changes everything.
I wrote about this territory in my first book, Giving From Empty, which explores the hidden cost of over functioning and what the journey back to yourself actually looks like from the inside.
This work matters to me. Not as a professional interest but as something I understand from the ground up.
Work with me
If you recognise yourself in any of this and want to explore whether working together might help, the first step is a free 30-minute consultation. No pressure, no commitment, just a conversation about what is going on for you and whether this feels right for you.
Client Reviews
5 STAR“I sought NLP therapy with Geraldine as I had been struggling with imposter syndrome in the workplace for several years. From the outset, Geraldine was incredibly attentive. She took the time to listen deeply, understand the root of my challenges, and guide me through the process with patience — especially when it took me a little longer to answer certain questions.
The timing of our session was ideal, as I had an interview later that day. Even before we finished, I felt noticeably more confident and grounded. My self‑doubt .…”
— Antoinette Marie Finn 5 STAR“I had a session with Geraldine for my fear of wasps. I couldn't remember why this fear started or when. However, Geraldine carefully questioned me and a forgotten memory returned where I had witnessed a friend being stung in the throat by a very large wasp or hornet and the person went into anaphylactic shock with her throat closing up. Thankfully my friend was ok but I realised where my fear of wasps had begun. Using NLP techniques, Geraldine very quickly worked her magic. The result is nothing short of miraculous. I now no longer freeze or panic when a wasp comes anywhere near me!! ….”
— Ali Baldwin5 STAR“My issue was a lack of confidence in regards to the course I have just started. I spent an hour with Geraldine with the goal of overcoming that issue.
Geraldine was open, friendly, put me at ease and made me feel relaxed and comfortable enough to discuss my issue openly and without reservation.
I felt safe throughout the whole process. And was surprised with the efficacy of the results.
It's like I have a magic button that I can press at any time and instantly transform into a more idealistic version of myself …..”
— Oli Munnery